Wow, I know you deal with crazies every day but that's taking it to a new level. Where do these people come from?

That makes me sick to my stomach. You'd think the woman had a starving family or something. Ugh.

Now THAT is tacky.

Almost unbelievable.

Almost.

I'm sending you a tazer so you can shock some sense into these people.

Actually, where I live, in our Parish, that would be a perfectly normal request. The last two services I attended, the families were asking people to take food home with them. When my uncle died, my cousin who organized the funeral, tried to get everyone to take some food home with them. It was an amazing barbeque. The only people attending were great friends or family of the deceased. And there was enough food for everyone three times over. Who knows what the individual circumstances were of this woman's request. Maybe her husband was ill at home and couldn't make the service? I think it depends a lot on the social norms of the group involved. I wouldn't be so quick to judge.

Yeah, tacky most definitely. I can see people being asked to take food home *after* all is said and done, but to demand what amounts to take-out from an after-funeral "reception" is just nasty. If you can't stay, especially if you have someone at home who's ill, you just give your condolences to the bereaved and go. And here I always thought it was weddings that brought the worst sorts of tacky out of people.....

Yep, that is not the same as taking food home after attending and mingling with other friends and family. Asking for take out containers because you can't stay but want a free meal? What a rude bitch! It's really okay to be quick to judge someone like that.
My god, get a clue.

"I think it depends a lot on the social norms of the group involved. I wouldn't be so quick to judge."

In this face, the FW was a part of the social group involved...so she knows the norms. That she found it as awful as it actually is tells us all we need to know about those social norms.

Deciding to take the catering service's (or possibly the Reception Hall's, either way) plates is, apart from everything else, beyond the pale.

Yet another example of people only looking at things in terms of themselves...seems to happen with far more frequency than I recall in my younger days.

ew, just...ew.

I am sorry for your loss, FW.

Asking to take food home and being ASKED to take food home are two entirely different isssues. It is perfectly normal in ANY social circle for family members to ask or even beg people to take food home because they can't eat all of it. It is neither normal nor acceptable to bully your way into a doggie bag-- make that 2 doggie bags-- just because you "can't stay but want some of this food". Did you come to support the bereaved or just to snag free food? Inconsiderate bitch.

Did she bring the plates back?

Shameless. If I could be that shameless, I'd be rich... or at least lazy.

If it wasn't catered, like if it was at a family member's home and people cooked instead of having it made for them - then I think it would be acceptable.

We've had three funerals in the last 2 months and each had a reception at a family's home and the food was cooked by everyone... we're a very food-oriented family so it doesn't seem strange to just take food home, asking for it or not...

But catered? No.

The ONLY people who should be taking food home from a funeral is the family of the deceased. Period.

I don't care WHERE you are or what the "norms" are in your area...what that woman did is beyond tacky. Some people just have no class.

FW ~ I'm sorry for the loss.

Every time you tell a "people behaving badly" story, I think, "It cannot possibly get worse than this."

Then it does.

WOW! I am just astounded by the people you have had the unfortunate luck of meeting. I can not even imagine making such a request, and at a funeral to beat!! My goodness, where is the world going? (I sound like an old bitty.. I'm really only 21, so I promise there are young ones that are not like this!)

I'm wondering if this woman actually knew the deceased or family. I know there are funeral crashers out there that show up just for some free food. Pathetic.
Sorry for your loss FW.

I am sorry FW, but I know in your sorry you were shocked. I would have either slapped her or got her food and dumped it on her.

I have NEVER in my LIFE been party to someone as insensitive as this. I hope [and I know you didn't] but I hope you made this up.

People like this shouldn't exist.

A/R/L would have been interesting tho'......

dayum.

Why must everyone let people like this whacked woman get away with completely unacceptable behaviour?

I had a friend in college who used to hit funerals when he was too broke to buy food. Now THAT'S tacky.

The lady at the funeral reception taking the plates home must have been my MIL- that's standard operating procedure for her! If there are fresh flowers on her restaurant table she takes 'em home. She takes the whole container of sugar packets and basically anything else that isn't nailed down. But she always leaves her dirty napkin...unless it is folded around the bread basket in her purse. No, I do not go to restaurants with her any more.

That is very common here too. Funerals, weddings, graduations, baptisms, you name it. In fact, if you show up without your DH/SO/Partner someone will make a plate for you to take with. LOL